My husband, Ethan Cole, asked for my kidney on a rainy Tuesday night like he was asking.

to different people.

We also had silence.

So much silence.

The kind that settles over a marriage after too many disappointments are left unnamed.

The kind that makes two people look like roommates with shared bills and separate griefs.

We had never had children, not for lack of trying at first, and somewhere along the way that disappointment hardened into continue reading …