True story. At the trust meeting, my daughter said: “She has no say.” I reached into my bag and…

that I did not know yet, and that the not knowing was okay.

I had spent too long doing things before I was ready, filling silences before they could settle into truth because silence in our family had always felt like danger.

I told Norah that I was going to wait, that I was going to let my daughter decide what kind of relationship she wanted to have continue reading …